“Hold Off, Is It a Date?”: Another Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Introducing
“Hold Off, Is It A Night Out Together”
the podcast about queer relationship there is a constant knew you always required, hosted by me, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast came into this world of Drew and that I’s shared passion for sound memos and deep talks about internet dating. We have been sending one another sound memos for only over annually today, heading deeply regarding things received really loves about internet dating (people! fun! flirting!) in addition to situations I detest about matchmaking (men and women! Fun! Flirting!). We had been having lots of fun, careful, and informative talks and honestly, it felt impolite to rob the greater public of those!

Contemplate united states since your friendly community co-hosts, guiding you through very certain queer relationship conundrums because honestly, straight matchmaking podcasts could never ever. Conundrums like: How do you flirt via IG stories? How do you take very long, drawn-out flirting to a higher level? So what does it imply to think men and women are into you? We are going to talk to some of Autostraddle’s finest experts, play some extremely particular video games, document on the pop music tradition crushes of-the-moment and undoubtedly, attempt to respond to the eternal concern of one’s occasions:

Wait…is this a date???

Pay attention to the teaser below and whet your appetite, then smash that “subscribe” button anywhere great podcasts are distributed, hence guaranteeing you an enjoyable August 11th, once the very first recognized episode drops!

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Drew:

Hi, I’m Drew.

Christina:

And I’m Christina. And this refers to

Hold off, Is This a romantic date?

An Autostraddle podcast that’s specialized in issue, “Wait, so is this a romantic date?”

Drew:

I am so thrilled discover.

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Christina:

Yeah. I do believe we’ve been on a trip to find out just what are times and what are not times, as buddies, also as a people, In my opinion.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Meaning, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians exactly what our very own entire indealment is actually, like what we’re as much as within time?

Drew:

Like just who we’re?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m able to go initially. My name is Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, the internet site. I actually do many movie and television critique, and sex and matchmaking writing, and personal essays, and things that blend all those things. I am trans and I am a lesbian, and I feel just like i will add a 3rd thing because things are in threes. What more? Exactly what else?

Christina:

Circumstances would continue threes. You have fantastic locks.

Drew:

Oh, many thanks.

Christina:

You have got incredible hair, i believe which is really important.

Drew:

Those are my personal identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great tresses.

Christina:

Those tend to be your own identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I usually asserted that you’re a woman of hair experience. I have constantly mentioned that about you.

Drew:

Yeah. It is important.

Christina:

Yeah. I am Christina Tucker. Im additionally a writer at Autostraddle, if you can believe it, exactly who writes about… oh, let’s merely state whatever one thinks of. Which is really the feeling. Additionally a lesbian. I Am Dark. I’m not sure which more Im.

Drew:

You additionally have fantastic hair.

Christina:

Ok last one, no, What i’m saying is, i do believe this can be maybe a podcast of hair experience. Maybe that need to be the tagline, “a podcast of tresses experience.” I assume individuals are probably thinking exactly how we have got to this podcast especially.

Drew:

Yes. And like every neat thing in daily life — by that I mean, extremely, very few — it began as a highdea, as something which I sent you in a vocals memo, high. And returning further than that, we started sending vocals memos together in the beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am only planning inform you just like the emotions that i’ve, and after that you may go from that point and answer me personally, perhaps not respond to myself, whatever. I am the same as, this might be myself being direct and obvious. Okay. I will be some one who… I favor dealing with matchmaking. Its one of my personal main topics of discussion. We have today said my portion.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thank you so much for saying the part. Additionally, six moments and 54 moments. Genuinely, rather amazing for you to get that out in that timeframe. I never truly think about internet dating. I believe, perhaps, an opposite feeling of both you and your want to think about matchmaking and explore matchmaking and, like, end up being dating. I think those tend to be my personal ideas. Really, I’m sending a Drew-level voice memo, a Drew-length voice memo today. I will deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I am aware you don’t think of online dating, not up to myself, perhaps under anyone else I understand?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I do believe about online dating around practically anyone I additionally know. I don’t know. We truly do not know easily’ve came across anybody who willn’t remember dating as much as I would or as much as I don’t, i suppose.

Drew:

We don’t truly know both. We were colleagues at Autostraddle, however for those that simply don’t know, Autostraddle is actually an online office space. It really is more of a Slack situation than a, we-all arrive to like lesbian headquarters with briefcases. That’s not really the vibe. We failed to really know both. Right after which, the start of pandemic, there clearly was some DM sliding many friendship building and some vocals memoing. And in addition we would usually joke it absolutely was like we had a podcast because we would send these very long sound memos. Immediately after which when I was actually stoned, I happened to be love, “We really should.” And here the audience is.

Christina:

Yeah. I understand everything mean by high ideas not necessarily becoming the most effective tips, but I do have a very clear remembrance of hearing you point out that and being like, “Yeah, of course we should have a podcast. We are doing for each and every different. Why-not invite people engrossed?”

Drew:

craigslist m4m sexting-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Usually my personal large tips are things like, “Oh my Jesus, there must be a TV tv show labeled as

Get A Hold Of Your Celebrity Twin,

the place you simply take a celebrity and they fulfill someone who — like a haphazard individual who has actually their same beginning chart. That also, is one of my personal high tactics that i believe would be great. It Really Is like…

Christina:

Yeah, first and foremost, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew:

That is a free one. Really don’t proper care.

Christina:

No, it isn’t. Drew, i am getting you money, I am going to be your cash manager for this. Definitely not.

Drew:

I simply want to see these things worldwide. Basically, this might be a dating podcast, a queer relationship podcast. And something reason why it’s that topic, rather than a variety of other items Christina and that I explore, is basically because I favor online dating and Christina cannot love matchmaking which is a great little.

Christina:

Less of a fan.

Drew:

And conflict is really… That’s where drama occurs. I think Socrates asserted that.

Christina:

Completely.

Drew:

So in retrospect that is our very own topic. We will include all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We will discuss the finest queer internet dating conundrums, internet dating via Instagram.

Drew, in sound clip from future event:

Correct me easily’m wrong, but i believe Instagram is the best queer internet dating application.

Shelli, in audio clip from future episode:

One thousand percent. It is the finest.

Christina, in audio clip from potential occurrence:

I have heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Absolutely. It gives you actually everything required, unless of course somebody’s personal. But even if you’re private, infant, I’ll figure out exactly about you, some type of way.

Drew, in sound clip from potential episode:

We’re going to talk about the best gender we’ve ever endured.

Dani, in sound clip from future episode:

After which I finally asked like, “No, do you run-over right here having sex? Tend to be we gonna have sex?” And had been like, “Yeah, that’s what i needed.” Also it had been like, the pet therefore the dog had been when you look at the space there was cat-and-dog tresses every where. And I was actually like, seriously having an allergic response although we were making love. The orgasm had been, like, cook’s kiss. It absolutely was an ideal knowledge.

Drew, in audio clip from potential episode:

Wow.

Christina, in sound video from future episode:

I wonder whether it’s anything about the hives that actually included. Like some ‘jenesequa’ to this climax experience. It was like, “Ooh, i am a tiny bit itchy also.” We ask yourself simply how much that aspects. We’re making reference to simple tips to split up with others.

Ro, in audio clip from future occurrence:

It is like a really direct lifestyle thing, as well.

Christina, in audio video from potential episode:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio clip from future episode:

About if you ask me, personally i think like… My personal directly friends are the ones who happen to be prone to state, “Well, bang that person. That person sucks,” easily finish a relationship with some body. While, queer people in my life are those who are more prone to preserve relationships with exes or at least see the exes in a holistic means.

Christina, in sound video from future episode:

All you could contemplate in an online dating podcast, and I’m perhaps not planning to lie for you individuals, also a lot more. Over you can ever before imagine.

Drew, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

When you’re sexting via book, is it like what you would like all of them… are you currently undertaking role-plays of a situation, like “you’re holding me personally at this time” or “If only you had been coming in contact with,” just what tight tend to be we in?

Kayla, in sound video from future episode:

Yeah, I was planning ask similar question, really, for the reason that it’s a thing that’s usually interesting if you ask me, specifically because we are all article writers, additionally.

Christina, in audio video from potential occurrence:

I was going to say, several authors fancy, “What tight tend to be we operating?”

Kayla, in audio video from future occurrence:

Standpoint.

Christina, in audio clip from potential occurrence:

It is a close third, what is going on here?

Kayla, in audio video from future event:

Like, strictly 2nd?

Drew:

Here’s the thing about queer folks. Let me tell you.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. Thanks for visiting your TED Chat. Why don’t we stop.

Drew:

We so many experiences and they are much more interesting. Simply once I take into account the manner in which right individuals speak about online dating, it’s therefore monotonous. And I think so frequently, queer dating conversations are extensions with the conventional dating discussion, but including such things as “coming out” and “first-time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” It really is like — absolutely so much more nuance in books… It’s therefore exciting. What some sort of that it’s, queer sex and queer relationship.

Christina:

We have taken such as the really traditional types of dull structure of heterosexual matchmaking and extremely introduced it into another world, filled up with very long talks and processing our very own feelings. It’s amazing work.

Drew:

Yeah. I am actually excited and I hope everybody are excited, because our very first episode comes out a week from now and then, there will be brand-new symptoms every Wednesday.

Christina:

It has been seven days and soon you’ll notice the podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you’ll not only get

To L and Straight Back

on Mondays, you will get

Wait, Is This A Romantic Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I co-host both, when you dislike myself, I guess you’re not paying attention to Autostraddle podcasts. Just in case you are doing just like me, you are welcome.

Christina:

Also, if you do not like Drew, grow up, is really what i need to say.

Drew:

I’m not for all, I am ok with this. I think it should be best that you not be for all of us.

Christina:

Positive. I do believe that is completely reasonable. And possibly a subject we could talk about on one of our potential episodes. What will happen when you are maybe not for all? I liked that I moved like, “Ooh, why don’t we get this to all-inclusive.” What takes place when you, we, as folks. You stated, let us carry out a whole occurrence in regards to, “let’s say I’m not for all?”

Drew:

Well, it’s Leo period and that I’m a Leo increasing and I also decided rendering it about myself. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. thanks definitely.

Drew:

The audience is twin Leo risings on this subject podcast, and that’s part of exactly why it’s going to be so good. You’ll be able to listen to you wherever you hear the podcast. It will be a fairly common podcast circumstance. Absolutely nothing fancy, no riddles needed to be solved to get the occurrence, it will likely be right there obtainable.

Christina:

Simply not the manager people. There are many possibilities, do what you will.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you’ll find us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you may email united states at [email protected]. And you may discover me on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal name in our tense.

Christina:

I’ve looked over your social media marketing addresses many times and that I haven’t, until this minute, recognized it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Really that is the thing, Drew had been taken and that I have no idea how… Oh, I became internet dating some body which in fact… really this person just who I dated, I didn’t get much of that commitment, except we said this concept and she believed it absolutely was thus funny, like too amusing, actually, like area of the issue, i do believe perhaps. And I had been motivated to take action, then it’s just stuck.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Often people think i am an aesthetic singer and you also understand what, i enjoy end up being considered in that way, but i cannot, I don’t really have drawing abilities.

Christina:

I shall state you’ll find nothing regarding brand for Drew than being want, “Oh, which is your Twitter handle.” While becoming similar, “Actually, it’s a funny tale about internet dating.”

Drew:

Indeed, just.

Christina:

Great.

Drew:

Just what are your personal handles, consequently they are they connected with the passionate life?

Christina:

Merely, no. There is myself at @c_gracet on twitter.com, website. And in case you need to get a hold of me personally on Instagram, you certainly can do so, at @christina_gracet. And it is really courageous of me to know my own personal Instagram handle.

Drew:

Amazing work.

Christina:

Cheers much.

Drew:

It is usually a pleasure to talk to both you and I’m therefore excited to plunge into a few of these interesting topics. As well as all of our audience to make the journey to know us slightly better acquire to… In my opinion we can all, i believe all of us are browsing learn on this subject journey.

Christina:

I hope so. I signed up for reading.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school span of podcasts. That made it appear to be an absolute bummer. So sorry.

Drew:

I don’t know. I had some excellent university classes.

Christina:

Obviously, I Did So too, but I Really Don’t should make anyone—

Drew:

Can you imagine just how incredible it could be should you decide turned up your university course and either of us was your own professor, or we instructed a class together, that’d function as the hottest thing actually ever. Men And Women might possibly be like…

Christina:

Hottest violation in town. Enrollment is off the information.

Drew:

Oh, we should have an episode which is dedicated to hot professors. That is not appropriate.

Christina:

That isn’t maybe not appropriate. We’ll declare that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I’m like there may be — you should make it only a little broader, but you never know? Who knows just what will take tomorrow, and that’s actually interesting. And you learn who can understand? You, listener, whenever you listen in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You stay tuned and you also crucially hit that old subscribe option and you may spend time with us every Wednesday and ask your self, “something a date?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That gives me to… I’m not sure. I found myself just wanting to know… ended up being this a night out together?

Christina:

Drew, no. This can be a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I do believe I’m having the hang from it and you also understand what’s fantastic, is the fact that because I inquired, now i am aware, and today directly in interaction is truly what it’s all about.

Christina:

Asked and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

And something that a lot of folks in our neighborhood could learn. And now weare going to, hopefully, this is really a site. This might be less of a podcast and much more of a political work.

Christina:

Wow. I found myselfn’t alert to that, but I’m delighted to understand that we are having both a podcast and a political act. Two of my personal favorite things. Two of my favorite factors to begin with P, podcasts and governmental functions.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

I think my personal instinct is if I like one and I also want them in my own life, i understand the easiest way for my situation to ensure that they’re inside my life is to make them a friend.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m only therefore grateful we’ve become such buddies. Of course, if away from quarantine, that is what happened, we made this phenomenal brand-new buddy, exactly who I favor dearly and that I’m merely thrilled to speak with you always, like what a gift.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I experienced a thought also it went away. It absolutely was honestly probably truly brilliant.